Stopping the Comparison Game

Comparisons.

They affect our emotions, our mental state, how we interact with others, and how we express ourselves. Many people believe that comparison helps foster a healthy drive - seeing someone do better makes you strive to do better - however, studies show that comparing yourself to others has mostly negative side effects. This is doubly true in the realm of movement and body image.

Comparison is on what pop culture fitness THRIVES. Companies shame customers into buying their programs because said customers don’t look like the airbrushed models in the ads. Or because said customers can’t lift as much as one of the organization’s top trainers. Companies disguise their intentions with buzzwords like ‘health,’ ‘wellness,’ and ‘self care,’ but, never forget, most fitness organizations thrive on the shame of others.

What perpetuates this shame? Social media.

How many times per day do you find yourself scrolling through instagram or facebook and reading curated stories, written to look like everyday life? How often to you catch yourself wondering why you don’t look like her, or write like him, or have a following like them? Even posts by influencers assuring you that their feed isn’t real life seems to have no effect. On the screen, they look flawless and happy and successful.

This is the comparison game into which so many people drown every day. And it’s time to take a step back and really analyze how comparison affects your life.

Think about the most recent time you compared yourself to someone else and answer these questions:

  1. What comparison(s) did you make?

  2. How did comparing yourself to this other person make you feel?

  3. What did comparing yourself to this person do for you? How did it further you toward self love, body acceptance, and/or your goals for your future?

Taking the time to reflect on these three questions EVERY TIME you’re playing the comparison game is key to stopping the negative effect comparisons have on you. Society is so oversaturated with information about the lives of others that oftentimes comparisons get brushed off or go unnoticed. However, a HUGE part of body liberation and self care is STOPPING this comparison. The first step in stopping it is becoming aware of its effects and how comparisons are serving YOU.

Sending out love, Thrive Tribe <3.